DEAR MISS MANNERS: My elderly parents and I seldom talk or visit, per my father’s wishes. I am the older of their two children, and was always the dependable, devoted daughter. Seven years ago, my father made a derogatory comment towards my husband and I over politics at a family gathering, and wh en I objected to him and my mother privately, he decided that I wouldn’t be included in future family events. ...read more read less