DEAR ABBY: My husband of 58 years is an alcoholic, but not a mean one. He used to be the life of the party, but now his days consist of playing games on the computer and going to his friend’s house to drink. He has lost so much weight. He used to like to go places, but no longer. The kids have noticed the changes and so have the grandchildren. I am at my wits' end because I don’t know what the matter is. His doctors say he’s fine, but he’s not. What can I do now? -- OUT OF IDEAS IN TEXAS