Dear Abby: My mother is 86 years old. She has been widowed for more than 10 years. She works, sings in a choir, volunteers at her church and has three children who dote on her, but she desperately wants a man in her life — and the man she wants is married. They have been together for more than fiv e years on and off. They get together, feel guilty and break up. This has happened more than 20 times. ...read more read less