DEAR ABBY: Four years ago, after our family gathering for Christmas, my brother-in-law sent me a message saying I looked “sexy” in my sweater. I replied, “thanks.” A year later, at another family gathering, he sent me messages asking about my car, which led to sexual advances. I tried to avo id his advances by being nice and redirecting them to what a great husband and father he is. His reply was, “Good answer!” ...read more read less