Dear Eric: We only had one child because he was a preemie and I didn’t want to go through that again. Another reason is that my husband was no help with our child until he was around eight years old. After having a child, my husband decided he wasn’t ready for the responsibility and spent most o f his free time with his friends and drinking a lot. He finally stopped drinking so much when he was 36 but still drinks with his friends and by himself a few times a week. ...read more read less