I have a boyfriend who never asks for anything. He also never says “I love you.” Do you think this is a red flag? by Dan Savage 1. I’m an 81-year-old heterosexual woman whose husband died last May. I have found that my 56-yea r-old gardener of fifteen years can make me sexually happy. But now after four months he says he’s not respecting his wife by having sex with me. He relates this to going to a Catholic priest for confession. He seems to enjoy our sex. What should I tell him? “You’re fired.” P.S. Kidding, kidding — don’t fire your gardener. Tell him you’re grateful for the sexual happiness, you don’t want him to do anything that makes him feel uncomfortable, and then give him a raise. P.P.S. Will no one free us from these meddlesome priests? 2. What is the most frequently asked question you get? Hard to say — but I suspect I’ll get a lot more questions like the one above as my readership ages along with me. 3. I have a boyfriend… [ Read more ] ...read more read less