DEAR ABBY: While attending a friend’s family barbecue, “Willa,” a young mother of four, drank too much and became ill. Drugs may have been involved. Understandably, the three older children became very concerned about their mom’s condition. Willa’s partner, “Ian,” was furious. My husba nd spent an hour de-escalating Ian’s issues, while I attended to Willa and assured the children their mom would be feeling better after she rested. ...read more read less