Dear Annie: A few years ago, my husband -- always kind, patient and gentle throughout our nearly 40-year marriage -- began behaving in ways that shocked me. He became verbally cruel, aggressive, and would erupt in sudden fits of rage over seemingly nothing. It escalated to the point where he threw a plastic water bottle at me and threatened to hit me -- something entirely out of character. I took it seriously, had him arrested and pushed for a medical evaluation when he refused to seek help on his own. ...read more read less