Got problems? Yes, you do! Email your question for the column to mailbox@savage.love! by Dan Savage 1. How does one find the clitoris? I’m told the clitoris is not hard to find — go north, young man — but if one tries to find it and one fails, one should pull over (or pull out) and ask for directions. 2. If someone tells you to “do whatever you want,” should you? Someone who says that and means will eventually say it to the wrong person and get hurt; they’re a danger to themselves. Someone who hears that and takes it as license to do whatever they want is a danger to others. So, a decent person — by definition — wouldn’t do whatever they wanted to someone who told them they could. And seeing as you’re a reader of mine, I’m hoping you’re a decent person. P.S. People who say “do whatever you want” don’t mean it. What they mean is this: “I’m too embarrassed to… [ Read more ] ...read more read less