DEAR ABBY: I have three kids. One of them, “Jake,” is in his early 20s. He has medical issues, so he has always been babied to a certain degree. Jake has struggled with jobs, drugs, friends and places to live. Somehow, he always ends up back with me. I know I’m an enabler. I have kicked him ou t before, but I never give up on him. I try to be a positive role model because his father has never been in his life. ...read more read less