DEAR ABBY: My first marriage lasted 31 years. He was a nice man but a lousy husband. He died after a long illness. A year later, I started dating, met another man and fell in love. We dated for a year before he proposed marriage. Two months before the wedding, I called it off because he lacked communication skills and was pretty selfish. His comment was, “We talk at the dinner table. What more do you want?” The next day, I told him it was over.