DEAR ABBY: My husband hates my special needs sister. He allowed her to come on one short vacation but said she was awful, annoying and a bad influence on the kids. She doesn’t curse or do anything inappropriate. She is lazy and obese, but the kids love her and asked for her to come. He also screams at me if she calls, which she does sometimes because I’m her legal guardian and manage her funds. He wants me to stop doing it and turn her over completely to the state.