Dear Annie: I am struggling with how to handle this situation. My husband and I have been married for 44 years, and we have one son who is married with a grandson. Five years ago, we decided to move closer to our son’s family to be near our grandson. However, once or twice a year, my husband reminds me that I “ruined his life” by forcing him to move. He accuses me of being selfish for wanting to be closer to our grandson.