DEAR ABBY: I have worked successfully in the creative arts most of my professional life. My problem? My spouse never misses an opportunity to denigrate my work. If I show an unusual inspiration or spark of creativity which I am proud of, they instantly find fault and say it’s not a good or valid idea. It’s crushing! This could destroy our long and happy marriage. It’s painful because I love my spouse in every way. I am always respectful and supportive of their professional work. -- NO VALIDATION IN CALIFORNIA