Dear Eric: I am a gay male and have been with my husband for many years now, married six of them. Every time an issue comes up, whether it’s the landlord knocking on the door or someone else, he comes running to me to deal with it and I am fed up with it. I deal with paying all the bills each month. I work full time just like my husband, and I have told him numerous times to be a man and start dealing with it, as I want a husband, not a wife. But he doesn’t listen. It’s exhausting. What can I do?