by Anonymous When you recognize someone in a public space but feel too intimidated to approach, remember that kindness can go a long way in breaking the ice. Start by making your presence known without invading their personal space. A simple way to do this is by walking into their line of sight and establishing eye contact, accompanied by a warm smile. This non-verbal cue signals that you're approachable and open to interaction. After a moment, you could wave gently to initiate a conversation, starting with a casual topic, such as the curious pricing of vanilla extract. If they’re busy with their phone or computer, watching a movie or listening to music politely saying excuse me and commenting on something they’re doing (like the device they’re using or book they are reading) or asking a general question can be a good opener. People appreciate friendly gestures, and it creates a shared space to begin talking. Next, invite vulnerability by sharing something from your own experience where you’ve been in a tough spot. This encourages them to open up about their own challenges, perhaps the logistic difficulty they’re currently facing, creating an opportunity for co-miseration. A simple exchange of empathy can build rapport and ease any tension. At this point, if you feel comfortable, offer help directly or suggest ways you can connect them with someone who can assist. Whether it’s lending a hand with a purchase or providing a contact, your willingness to help can make a huge difference. By doing this, you become a kind and generous leader who helps others also feel less intimidated by a nerdy but charming dude but in the best possible way. Thank you for your kindness and help with these difficulties someone somewhere may be experiencing.