DEAR ABBY: Our daughter, son-in-law and two grandsons live in Australia because of our son-in-law’s job. One grandson will be bar mitzvahed soon, and our daughter is asking us to send her a list of our friends so she can send them invitations. Because going to Australia is such a long and expensive trip, we are quite sure that none of our friends will attend and will regard the invitation as a request for a gift. Should we send her the list she’s requesting? -- CONFUSED GRANDPARENTS