Dear Annie: I lost my husband 10 years ago. He was a great man, and we had a good marriage for over 30 years. It took me a while (seven years) to date, and when I did, I met a guy who was seven years older than me and twice divorced, but I was very attracted to him, and he was to me. We spent six months together, and then I left for the winter, but we flew back and forth and reunited again and it was like no time had passed. Then he found out he had multiple myeloma. His sister called to tell me because I was on a trip and he was in the hospital.