Dear Annie: It’s been a long journey for my wife and I. I left grad school and we got married in 2008, just as the economy collapsed. It took us a while to get our careers going. After 10 years of struggle, we moved to a new state for new jobs, and right before the pandemic, my wife started working on her teaching degree. During all of this, our oldest child had behavior issues, and our youngest was young and hyper and wouldn’t fall asleep at a reasonable hour.