Dear Annie: I tend not to tell people when they hurt my feelings because it feels rude to correct others’ choices. This is especially true when it comes to social invitations. A few weeks ago, I had lunch with someone I consider a very close friend. We see each other a few times a month and have even traveled together. During lunch, they were excitedly telling me about a new gourmet group they were forming -- a rotating dinner party. I said that it sounded like a lot of fun and that I was interested in joining.